Soul Mates: The Anguish of an Untimely, Broken Connection

Have you ever found yourself in a crowd of random people and managed to glance in the direction of a pair of eyes that immediately caught your attention? Then, without warning, you realize you’ve traversed into a another dimension where only you and the other person exist?

Have you ever held an unexpected conversation with a “stranger” for the first time and felt a gravitational/universal pull that brings forth a contiguous sense of familiarity and interconnectedness which cannot be explained logically?

If you have, then you’ve probably met a soul mate.

There have been various theories and several debates about the existence of soul mates and twin souls- right down to the specific “types” of soul mates.  But the one thing that is certain- all soul mates have some kind of past life connection. So, how do you differentiate the intensity, type, or role of the soul mate.

It is both simple and complex at the same time. If it’s a romantic soul mate, one with which you’ve shared many life times- you know. It’s an innate feeling deep inside your soul. It’s as if you are connected by an inseverable umbilical cord. There may even be moments of deja vu. You have an unnatural ability to communicate at the same time, or telepathically. Empathy goes beyond the levels of normalcy. Passion can be extremely intense in both the physical and mental sense.

Even so, soul mate relationships can be difficult, just like any other relationship. “Soul mate relationships are Karmic,” says Dr. Barbara Rose. “You have made a soul “agreement” to come into this life to meet again to uproot and transform each of your deepest healing and growth issues.”

The ego will often get in the way of the healing process in regards to years of negative patterns. If you allow it, it will be your soul mate who will help you to heal and grow. It is, without a doubt, as Dr. Rose says,  a deeply difficult process.

“However, once the resistance stops, and you face what needs to be healed within, then all of that turbulence within the relationship also dissipates, because you are no longer “fighting the river,” but are “going with the flow” where your can truly soar once you stop fighting everything you know deep within your heart to be true.”

But what happens if the fighting doesn’t stop, and the connection is broken? FEAR and EGO, according to Dr. Rose is the root of the cause behind soul mates parting ways.  Fear of being true to oneself, and their partner. Lack of communication, or the refusal of one or both parties to face what they need to face in order to heal and grow. Letting material things, status, and other parts of the ego go is the only way to let true love in.

Still, it isn’t any less painful. When you find yourself apart from your soul mate you experience a vast array of emotions, from feeling lost, to empty, to chronically sad, and restless. It’s as if a part of your own soul vanished when they did.

The positive? Often times soul mates continuously return to one another. Why? Because “true love never dies” and an ethereal connection can never be broken. Whatever happens, be it reuniting or not, your soul mate will remain in your heart always; from this life to the next and so on.

The sad part? You can’t always wait around for your soul mate to grow- you must continue your own growth process, avoiding self-destruction. Your other half must choose to do the same.

What’s worse, however, is if fear is the culprit behind the loss of your soul mate. Soul mates like these come once in a lifetime.

There’s no need to run. Choose to face your fears alongside your soulmate. Disagreements can be solved with communication, but your deepest fears must be faced head on. No one but you can distinguish that fire.

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The Spirtual Personality Type: Defining Ones Path in Life

For much of my life I’ve struggled with acceptance- particularly where it concerns my path and/or purpose in life.

Specific events relating to my personal life have inspired me to further investigate the juxtaposition between personality types in both the spiritual and psychological sense, and how they affect our life path.

While there have been various typologies throughout the years, the most infamous of the psychological personality types originated from the hypothetical work of Carl Jung and were published as Psychological Types in 1921. Other typologies include Socionics, MBTI, and Keirsey Temperament Sorter, all of which have Jungian philosophical roots.

The MBTI (Meyers Briggs Type Indicator) is the most commonly used test.  It is ” an assessment psychometric questionnaire designed to measure psychological preferences in how people perceive the world and make decisions.” These  psychological preferences derived from the typological theories posed by Carl Jung.

The MBTI is made up of 16 personality types:


For purposes of your curiosity, my MBTI personality type is an INFJ:

“Seek meaning and connection in ideas, relationships, and material possessions. Want to understand what motivates people and are insightful about others. Conscientious and committed to their firm values. Develop a clear vision about how best to serve the common good. Organized and decisive in implementing their vision.”

For the most part this is true. But- “seeking meaning and connection in idea’s and relationships; wanting to understand what motivates people and are insightful about others,” best describes my personal state of mind. In other words, I am an empath, pure in form.

From nearly 20 years of work in the psychiatric and spiritual fields,  Dr. Drew Ross developed what is known as “spiritual personality types.” According to Dr. Ross, ” Spiritual personalities are different types of approaches to the world, and to spiritual inquiry.” One question that is frequently posed is whether or not the spiritual personality test is the same as many of the other personality tests out there. “The test has some of the same basic approaches to types of personality, but it is mostly new. We don’t use much of the same terminology as older tests,” says Dr. Ross.

There are currently 12 spiritual personality types. The names of these personality types come from a variety of ancient languages, including, Sanskrit, Ancient Greek, Aramaic, Latin, and Ancient Hebrew.

I Zabater, the visionary leader
II Vayater, the visionary problem-solver
III Lyremer, the architect
IV Marraker, the organizer
V Perfizer, the achiever
VI Terraker, the Earth lover
VII Ediamer, the idealist
VIII Arahter, the inspirer
IX Devaier, the artist
X Salumer, the shaman
XI Obaculer, the oracle
XII Caeder, the visionary

It comes as no surprise to me that I fall under category 10, the Salumer, the shaman. There are more than a few of the Salumer’s characteristics that fall in line with my MBTI personality. 

Once again, use of the noun empath seems appropriate.

Here are some highlights of the Salumer, and they’re eerily on par with my personal issues.

Special Talents- The ability to see blockages and confusion, and to help others to find a path through and beyond them.

Challenges- The main ill on the planet is forgetting deep truth, and it can be overwhelming. You don’t have to heal the whole thing by tomorrow.

Relationship Issues– There is a danger in falling in love with someone who seems as though they will become great under your care. Your job in relationships is to find your equal, not someone who can benefit from your healing.

Emotional Issues– On the positive side, you can feel great release and relief with your many epiphanies and realizations. On the negative side, be careful not to take in too much of others’ suffering and pain — it is not yours.

Let’s just say that I have yet to master these “gifts” of mine. I regularly find myself in painful situations.

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Brett Favre: Retiring on Top of His Game, or Giving the Vikings One More Shot at the Super Bowl?

Favre wipes his face after losing to the Saints in the NFC championship gameLike Brett Favre, thousands of Favre fans are hanging their heads in both disbelief, and a figurative sense of contrition.

The NFC Championship game hosted at the Super Dome between the near perfect New Orleans Saints and the come back team of the year in the Minnesota Vikings, was a nerve-racking nail biter all the way into the fourth quarter.

Tied up in the fourth quarter 28-28  after consecutive touch down runs by the Vikings, Adrian Peterson, and the Saints, Reggie Bush, Favre had a little over one minute to drive his Vikings close to field goal range. And that, he did. But with only seven seconds left on the clock, Favre made the kind of mistake he’s often criticized for, yet managed to avoid all season.

As he rolled out to the right, Favre threw his pass late and over the middle towards pro bowl wide-out Sidney Rice, and instead found Saints DB Tracy Porter. Favre never had a chance to rectify his mistake, as the Saints won the OT coin toss. Fans of Favre and his Vikes were forced to watch Saints quarterback Drew Brees drive his team down the field, where Saints kicker Garrett Hartley nailed the winning 40 yard field goal that gave the Saints their 31-28 victory, and their first Super Bowl trip in franchise history.

Disappointing, heart breaking, exasperating, and emotional are just a few of the words that could be used to describe what could be Favre’s final game. Whether it should be or not, is another question.

With Favre’s now infamous will he-or-won’t-he charade, many fans would revel in concordance at his decision to retire. Statistically however, Favre had the best season of his 19 year career.

According to NFL statistics, he set career bests in completion percentage (68.4), quarterback rating (107.2) and fewest interceptions (7), while throwing for 33 TDs and 4,202 yards. The Vikings (12-4) earned a first-round bye in the NFC playoffs, and last week Favre became the first 40-year-old QB to win a playoff game with a four-touchdown performance against the Cowboys. And though he may have thrown two interceptions in a game that may haunt him for years to come, he showed a tremendous amount of grit, forcing himself back onto the field after taking a brutal hit by Saints DE Bobby McCray– a hit that left Favre and the Vikings staff believing he may have had a broken ankle.

Battered and bruised after taking the thrashing of a season in a single game, Favre had this to say,

I know people are rolling their eyes or will roll their eyes,” Favre said. “In a situation like this I really don’t want to make a decision right now based on what’s happened because I do know the year could not have gone any better aside from us not going to Miami. I really enjoyed it, to be honest.

“Just wondering if I can hold up, especially after a day like today. Physically and mentally. That was pretty draining. I am going to go home, a couple of days and just talk it over with the family.”

At 40 years of age and with 19 years under his belt, Favre has earned the right to take his time in making such a delicate decision. This is a man who truly loves the game, why else would someone choose to expose their bodies to such brutality?

Make it an even 20 Favre, and help bring the Vikings the championship they have eluded for over 33 years.


Depression and Mood Disorders in Youth: Study Reveals Increase

Fox News, a cable news channel known for being  right-wing biased, while desperately clinging to their “fair and balanced” marketing ploy, took a step in the right direction when they interviewed their psychiatric correspondent, Dr. Keith Ablow early last week.

Dr. Ablow’s segment focused on a study that was released on Monday, January 11th, (2010) in relation to the sizeable increase of mental illnesses found in today’s youth.

The study, lead by San Diego State University psychology professor Jean  Twenge, and involving five other researchers from various universities, found that five times as many high school and college students are dealing with mental health issues than youth of the same age studied in the Great Depression era.

Dr. Twenge and her fellow researchers examined the responses of over 77,500 high school and college students from the years 1938 to 2007, who took the Minnesota Multiphasic Personality Iventory test, (MMPI)  a test that is frequently used by mental health professionals to diagnose personality structures and psychopathology.

Along with an increase in depression, Dr. Twenge and company found, not surprisingly, that there was a six percent increase in mood, personality, and anxiety disorders- one percent more than the five percent overall average  increase on the test.

So, just what do these professionals think has caused such an increase in mental health issues? Dr. Twenge has already published a book titled, “Generation Me: Why Today’s Young Americans Are More Confident, Assertive, Entitled- and More Miserable Than Ever Before,” which puts emphasis on the influence pop culture’s pressures have put on young people. Pressures such as wealth, status, and flawless beauty- just to name a few. But Dr. Twenge also notes the rise in divorce among parents and the number of infamous “stage parents” who create unrealistic expectations for their children, which in turn can cause instability, disappointment, grandiosity, anxiety, and a lack of coping skills.

Dr. Ablow, however, places the blame solely on “our young people, who are drugging themselves by the tens of millions every single day with a combination of celebrity worship, dreams of unlimited wealth, and handy ways to stay away from anything like reality. They’re losing their ability to process genuine emotion, diving into a Web of Facebook, YouTube, trophies for everything, iPhones, e-mail and Twitter.”

I can certainly see some of the reasoning behind these allegations, but Dr. Ablow in particular, is leaving out some truly critical factors. Genetics and environment often play a major role in ones propensity to inherit a mental illness. Most of the mental health consumers I’ve associated with have been victims of abusive home environments, whether they’ve been physically or emotionally abused, neglected, or watched their parents violent behavior towards one another. Others still, have been victims of some form of sexual abuse. And some have had a long history of mental illness in their family, or a combination of all of the above.

Whatever the conclusion is, it’s clear that our country needs to put some serious accentuation on mental health and its research, or as Dr. Ablow says, “losing this battle will devastate more than one generation and cost us trillions.”

Annabella’s Epiphanies: Blogging Made Pleasurable

As promised, here is a quick poll for you to help me improve Annabella’s Epiphanies. A writer is only as good as her readers make her. I value each of your opinions and hope to make your visits to my blog a more satisfying experience.

If you have any other ideas or feedback, be sure to voice your opinions through comments on this post.